I don't know what's the deal but this is the second time I felt alienated from a local Monster High/Ever After High Facebook group. I mean it's nice to see all the photos, and it's definitely normal for the members to fawn over them. That's probably the reaction the owner of the post is expecting from their photos. Doll news and other discussions about dolls though, they seem a bit allergic to it? What gives?
One time I left a comment on a doll. In my comment I was able to identify the doll, then said the doll's hair and lips look really nice. Pretty short and generic for a comment. But I got a cold "Ok" from the owner. Huh?
Then today I posted the news early morning that EAH dolls are finally at Toy Kingdom. I got one person asking me about them, so I gave them more information. After a few hours though, the post is gone. What is the admin's problem? Do they not want other people to get their EAH dolls locally?
Even though I wasn't banned at all, I decided to leave the group, and that marks the last time I join a Facebook group dedicated to MH and EAH.
I think my kind of people would be over at Tumblr, who is open for news sharing, inquiries, and specially sharing their own toys. Next would be the ones with their own doll blogs. The ones I meet on Facebook are normally purists: those that buy dolls brand new and keep them in their original outfits and hair styles. That's totally fine. I mean, MH and EAH styles are normally colour-coordinated because of their skin colour, so it figures that some owners just stick to the doll's original appearance. From my experience though, I rarely saw people there who share their work on their rescued dolls, like there's an invisible cloud of shame for doing that, which I do not get at all.
That's really it. I'm done. I'll stick to the local selling Facebook groups because at least I can ask questions about some of the dolls, and I get to see many types, and if I get lucky, I can score some dolls for a very cheap price. But if my experience there turns into crap as well, ah then bless whatever that made that possible.
Hi Oly.... Sorry to hear this. That's just a bad experience. And it's just right that you leave the group. It's a good thing that you tried connecting with them, but if they're not in your frequency, it's just better to leave.
ReplyDeleteI am in a few Facebook Doll groups and although I don't like bitchy-bratty attitudes of the members and the "Hey I got a new doll" posts, I appreciate the idea that they are creative people, trying to be good at their styling, photography, etc and sharing their works.
What I don't like naman in local Facebook buy/sell groups is that people haggle on the items you sell for the cheapest price you can think of. I mean, you post it so that anybody who may need it, won't need to find anywhere else - you're not there for profit! But, oh well, yeah.. I guess leaving these stressful environments will solve our case =)
Hi Shasha, yes instead of dealing with unnecessary drama, I just left. Magblog na lang ako!
DeleteI appreciate the photos and the show-and-tell, but it's Facebook so it's supposed to be an interactive environment, and I think doll posters should be receptive to the positive comments. Yun na nga lang, cold pa rin?
I don't haggle that much in buy and sell groups. If I find something that's not within my price range, then I know it's not for me. I might ask for a last price, but that's it. I don't argue with the seller at all. When you encounter a barat customer, just be kind na lang, I guess. They'll eventually leave you alone when they don't get the price they desire. Good luck in selling, Shasha!
Hello OLy, so this is the 2nd time you experienced these type of reaction/treatment. This is one reason why I don't join groups also. You're right, some groups prefer their members to have collectible dolls that are priced above their head.
ReplyDeleteYeah second time. That's why I will just stick to selling groups this time.
DeleteSo far the best doll group I've found is Magical Misfits! It's not a buy/sell, but you can get tips from other members on repairing and restoring dolls. Everyone there is so great.
ReplyDeleteI should look for that group! Thank you for the tip!
DeleteOh I couldn't find it. I found this post and their link to the group leads to an unavailable page: http://i-luv-dolls.blogspot.com/2016/01/hey-gang-i-have-been-having-big-fun-on.html
DeleteDo you have a link to the group?
Sorry I totally missed your question!
Deletehttps://www.facebook.com/groups/1622857421324893/
Thanks! I already joined. :D
DeleteFunny you should say that I have tried joining conversations & posting info on an US Monster High website and got a cool reception as well. I got feed up with people correcting grammar, and commenting on posts just to try outdo each other. They seem to be in a clique and resent anyone not agreeing with their opinions. I just stopped joining groups now as its not worth the trouble.
ReplyDeleteIf you haven't given up you'll find a better group soon that's more positive and suits your style. It will just take time. After writing this post, I have found Mharena forums to be relaxed and very pleasant so I chime in my thoughts on there once in a while, and I joined a Facebook group for restoring dolls, which Watchme81 above recommended. The group is composed mostly of adults in their 40s and above, much older than me, but they are very knowledgeable in what they do and can even identify vintage dolls. Very helpful when I'm curious about my own finds.
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